An unprecedented guidebook explaining the community aspect of the kink lifestyle. This is the first book that explains kink culture - the parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, explatoriums and other gatherings that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and community. Readers will learn how to: understand etiquette in different sex communities; negotiate for play and aftercare; and most importantly, what on earth to wear!