What is the lesson in abuse, neglect, abandonment, rejection? Bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant has had an amazing and difficult life which has unmasked her wonderful gifts and led to wisdom gained. Now she uses her own personal experiences to show how life''s hardships can be re-languaged to become lessons that teach us as we grow, heal and learn to love. The pain of the past does not have to be today''s reality.