THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER''The book that we all need'' Esther Perel''A road map for all of us who seek true intimacy'' Gwyneth Paltrow''A revolutionary guide to happy, thriving couplehood'' Lori GottliebNot much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness-and there''s also not much that''s more important.At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counsellor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.In Us, Real shares his new science-backed skillset to transform your relationship into one that''s based on compassion, collaboration and closeness. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of ''you'' and ''me'', or feel like you are living ''alone together'', this book will show you the way back to ''us''.